Posts Tagged ‘my mom’

It’s been five months since my last post…. That sounds almost like the start of a confession, doesn’t it? In my last post, I was talking about how bad my mom was but that I still wanted to start writing again on my other pen name.

So here’s what’s happening. My mom is MUCH better. In fact, they are talking about possibly letting her go home in the near future. Her mind is back to what it should be. Her physical ailments are much better. She’s picked up a few other physical problems, but not anything we can’t deal with. Some of this is part of old age. She’s 83. But she doesn’t look it! And she has her stubbornness, her sense of humor, and her drive to “do things herself” back. She’s made some friends at the nursing home, eats dinner in the dining room instead of in her room, and takes part in games and functions. I’m so ready for her to come home. I live two doors down, and my brother is next door. Plus, my nephew has been living in her house and has it all cleaned up for her. He can help take care of her when she comes home.

As for writing. I’m really trying to get the drive back to write again. I’m trying to write that third book in the trilogy, but my heart isn’t really in it. Instead, my heart is telling me to write that book I thought about a long time ago that was a non-fiction book about marriage. There’s a couple we’re really good friends with at church, and the man told me yesterday that there are so many books about marriage written by men or a husband/wife team. He said there are so few written from a woman’s perspective. This guy got me enthused about that book again. I’ve had an outline for a long time. I don’t usually outline fiction (I tried it and it doesn’t work for me), but a book like this needs an outline since each chapter will be a different subject pertaining to marriage. The reason this project scares me a bit is that it’s not just fiction, but it’s something that could be really important if done right. So…can I do it right? I would sure like to try.

Anyway, that’s what’s going on with me. What’s going on with you?


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People tell me I’m nice. They tell me I’m kind and generous. I don’t see myself as anything but a normal, flawed individual, maybe even a little selfish, but my heart fills with joy when I see and hear things said about me that I didn’t realize people thought. I WANT to be that kind of person. I just didn’t realize so many people see me that way. It brings tears to my eyes that I have touched people in a good way. I have to admit, I love people. I try to see the best in them, even when it’s hard.

I know exactly WHY I am nice. It’s because of my mother. I grew up in a single parent home; my dad and mom divorced when I was very young. But I never lacked for love. My mom showered love and care on my brother and me every day of our lives. We didn’t have much money back when I was a child, but my mom never let my brother and me know that. She just did the best she could, and we never lacked for anything, even though she sometimes wondered how she was going to buy groceries. My mom taught me that we shouldn’t judge people because they were different. I had a friend in school who was made fun of by others, but I never shunned her because of it. I remember my mom telling me how proud she was because I befriended this girl. Didn’t Mom realize that it was because of HER that I didn’t judge people? I never cared if someone was cool or popular. I chose my friends because I liked them. I learned that from my mom.

I feel so bad for people who didn’t have a happy childhood or people who say they don’t get along with their mothers. It’s so sad, and I wish I could change that for them. Because I know what it’s like to have a mother who is kind, loving, and generous. A mother whom EVERYONE likes. And yet a mother who will NOT let someone walk all over her. Believe me, no matter how nice she is, she WILL speak her mind. She’s honest to a fault. She’s a lot of fun. She’s done so much over the years to help my brother, my sons, and me.

I get so busy sometimes, that I don’t see her as often as I should, even though she just lives through the woods from me. Yesterday was great because I got to see her for two meals. And I also got to spend time with my husband, my sons and their families, and my mother-in-law. Yesterday was a wonderful family day. I am truly blessed and thankful.

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I had a very interesting conversation with my mom last night. She’s, of course, my biggest fan. She was talking about the Nora Roberts series she was currently reading. This is kind of how the conversation went.

Mom: “I’m reading this Nora Roberts series, and it’s really good.”
Me: “I don’t really like her books that well. Not my thing. But she’s a good writer.”
Mom: “Yes, she is. But she’s no better than you.”
Me: “What?” Much laughter from me.
Mom: “Your books are just as good. They’re just different from hers.”
Me: “But she’s a much better writer than I am.”
Mom: “What makes her a better writer?”
Me: “She just is.”
Mom: “She’s not better than you. I like your books just as much as hers.”
Big grin from me. My mother loves me.

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My Mom

I just wanted to post a quick note to let you all know why I’ve not been around much. My mom had to have her other stent put in Tuesday. So I was at the hospital all day Tuesday and half a day on Wednesday. We found out that the infection she had at the pacemaker incision was staph. So I had to take her to an infectious disease specialist this morning. Tomorrow, I have to take her back to the hospital to get an IV put in, and they are going to give her antibiotics that way. Then home health is going to come to her house Saturday and get her set up for IVs at home, which she will have to do for two weeks. So I’m at the hospital or doc’s office all day and working all night to catch up. Hopefully, next week will be better. I think my blood pressure is up….

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